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Our Last CSF call – The SABOTEUR

Think you know what there is to know? Guess again. Perhaps that’s just a saboteur talking, telling you that you know plenty, and there’s nothing left to discover about working with a Saboteur, Gremlin, Critic… .He who runs the show when we are not present. Certainly there’s nothing of value in a simple little 60 minute recording.
Yeah, I thought so.
Well, check it out anyway and see if you discover something you didn’t know before (or strangely seemed to have forgotten.)

It’s all part of the Coaching Skills Forum. Going where no coaching call has gone before.

PLAYGROUND PONDERABLES, part 2: the Merry-Go-Round

As part of my Playground Ponderables BeDo Bits newsletter, I’m also exploring some smaller pieces and rides and the marvelous metaphors they can offer to our coaching.

Take the Merry-Go-Round: You can’t do it along too well–you need someone to help you.  Sure you can do it yourself, sort of.  You can push it around and around, faster and faster, but as soon as you jump on, all your extra weight slows it down.  And it will keep on slowing down.   You can try to push yourself with one foot, but you really can’t get good traction to really get good speed.  The trick is that you have to stay off of it and push other people.  You get to give others the thrill of spinning at dizzying speeds.

Of course it’s exciting to spin in circles, watching the same thing pass by you again and again and again, and each time feeling like you might get flung off, so you hold on tighter.

The secret is: when you stand up, you lose your balance and you fall off.  The lower you get, the more your grounded and focused, the easier it is to stay on.  And if you lie down in the middle, centered, you’ll feel less pull to the side.

However, if there’s two of you on the ride, then the real fun can happen.  You can hold each other’s hands and spin forever and not fall off.  You can lean back and feel the pull and momentum and know that you’re safe, no matter how fast you go.

And the extra trick is, if you get dizzy, just focus on the person opposite you and you’ll regain your balance and recover.

All right gang, let’s make some more metaphors.  What comes to mind when you think of the merry go round?

 

 

PLAYGROUND PONDERABLES: Sliding the slide

I’m writing a BeDo Bits newsletter article about playing on the playground and I’m also reminded of how many wonderful metaphors are there that we can perhaps use to inform our coaching.
Sliding down the Slide

I always love the slide.  Little slides all the way up to the giant slides.  And in the wintertime, we go sledding.  In the summer we run down the dunes on the beach.  wherever we are and whatever we’re going down, the experience is all the same.

First there’s a lot of going up–usually many steps are involved.  It’s hard. There’s sometimes a line that slows it down even more.  It takes a long while to get to the top.  And when we get there, we might even be a little tired and worn out from the upwards step-by-step journey.  However, what keeps us moving is that we know what is waiting for us when we reach the top.

We get to go down.

This is fast and fun, but if you try to stop, you not only could get hurt, but you ruin it for others.  It’s exciting and thrilling, that feeling of being slightly out of control, and yet, you’re still safe within the barriers of the slide–the sides designed to keep you in a certain pathway as you race toward the bottom to top speed.

So what’s the metaphor here?  The slide. A wonderful thing.   We spend our lives working so hard to ascend all sorts of ladders in our lives.  The higher we climb, the harder it can be sometimes.  And yet, we can’t turn back.  Having to go back down the stairs is frustrating, humiliating, embarrassing… and not nearly as much fun.  It may be business building, or money or a project.  It may be a large giant huge latter in front of us, or a small teeny ladder.  Either way, we must ascent one step at a time.

And when we reach the top, when we’ve done all the hard work building our business or our project or developing our coaching confidence and skills, then take a moment to look around.  What a view.  Then sit down and scootch yourself forward just enough… so… you… can… PLUNGE DOWN AND ENJOY THE RIDE.

All right gang.  It’s your turn.  What other slide metaphors can you come up with?  (And don’t wait too long because there are a few other PLAYGROUND PONDERABLES coming soon with rides)

What happens to our “IT”

I realized something today.

First off, let me state that I truly believe we all have IT.   Some kind of IT factor.   It’s different for everyone.   For some of us IT is our kindness or our compassion, for others, IT could be our talent or skills or natural born strengths, and still others IT might be our passion and fire. Whatever it is, IT is very important. IT is what the world wants. IT is your gift to the world. IT is very important.
It makes perfect sense that we should shine our IT in any and every way we can, right?
That’s what we do with our clients. It’s why we take all those classes, read all those books, attend programs, and get great coaching… to discover, uncover and reveal our magnificent and magical IT factor and quality, that something that gives our lives meaning, purpose and fulfillment, and usually does something similar for others as well.
Except what really happens? We hide out IT. We keep it quiet. We’re afraid to show it. We compromise and cover it up. In other words, every time our IT wants to shine, we go “SHHHHH”, and try to keep it a secret from the rest of the world.
Now let’s look at this. You have an IT. A beautiful and magnificent and powerful IT. And you keep saying “SH” to it.
Well, from where I sit, when you SH your IT that’s just a whole load of….

Well, I’m sure you can figure it out.

What we do with our “IT”

I realized something today.

First off, let me state that I truly believe we all have IT.   Some kind of IT factor.   It’s different for everyone.   For some of us IT is our kindness or our compassion, for others, IT could be our talent or skills or natural born strengths, and still others IT might be our passion and fire. Whatever it is, IT is very important. IT is what the world wants. IT is your gift to the world. IT is very important.
It makes perfect sense that we should shine our IT in any and every way we can, right?
That’s what we do with our clients. It’s why we take all those classes, read all those books, attend programs, and get great coaching… to discover, uncover and reveal our magnificent and magical IT factor and quality, that something that gives our lives meaning, purpose and fulfillment, and usually does something similar for others as well.
Except what really happens? We hide out IT. We keep it quiet. We’re afraid to show it. We compromise and cover it up. In other words, every time our IT wants to shine, we go “SHHHHH”, and try to keep it a secret from the rest of the world.
Now let’s look at this. You have an IT. A beautiful and magnificent and powerful IT. And you keep saying “SH” to it.
Well, from where I sit, when you SH your IT that’s just a whole load of….

Well, I’m sure you can figure it out.