Silence and Space

SILENCE and SPACE.
On the last Coaching Skills Forum call we explored the topic of Silence and Space and how it shows up in our coaching, what makes it important and some really powerful conversation was created.
And someone mentioned that, in their opinion, SILENCE creates SPACE.
However, that got me thinking. Does it work the other way around?
Does SPACE create SILENCE?
And thus the conversation turned. So now I’m even more curious.
It’s kind of a Chicken/Egg conversation.
What do you think comes first? Do you need to be SILENT to create SPACE in your coaching?
Or do you create SPACE in your coaching to have SILENCE?
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.

And if you want to listen to the conversation we had, it was pretty awesome.

http://bedo.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/02/Silence-and-Space-021120.mp3

And you can visit www.coachingskillsforum.com for over 325 other recordings. All free. All fun. All fantastic for you coach growing.

17 Years of coaching = 17 minutes for you

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME!
Well, it happened. Friday was the 17th anniversary of my first coaching class.
The first day I started this crazy journey.
The first day my entire career and life changed.
The first day I discovered and gave a voice to my inner coach.
And now…
My inner coach is now driving.
My inner coach is starting to look at colleges.
My inner coach can donate blood.
And if my Inner coach gets arrested, it will still be tried as a juvenile. (Hm. This is taking a dark turn.)
In any event, instead of receiving presents, I thought I would give.
I would like to offer 17 coaches out there 17 minutes of complementary mentor / coaching on any topic, any question you might have about coaching.
There is no catch, no selling, no obligation, just my gift to you. (After all, any day I can help any coach is a great day)
Just use this link to find a time that works best for you and we can talk then.

https://my.timetrade.com/book/DVGMN

The MasterFull Coaching Mentor Group begins again

Are YOU ready to grow your coaching to the next level?

  • Get stretched and grown by 4 amazing coaches (including me, an MCC coach that specialized in advanced coach development)
  • Have 3 of your own coach recordings listened to and evaluated
  • Review and deepen the NEW ICF Core Competencies
  • Listen and learn from 9 other amazing coaching recordings
  • Receive TWO BONUS recordings of my own MCC coaching to explore
  • Benefit from additional Master Class insights and tools that apply to the moment
  • And so much more.

This is more than just having a mentor coach. It’s having FOUR.

It’s more than just a mentor group. It’s exploring advanced coaching approaches, insights and tools to grow your coaching quickly and powerfully.

It’s more than just a supervision and evaulation–it’s targeting and revealing your blind spots, challenging you to step into new levels and to expand your coaching reach, depth, power and impact.

It’s not about helping you be better at a particular tool, model or method–it’s about you truly having the support, insight and access to BE the coach you are truly here to BE.

And a new round begins, Wednesday, February 12 from 5:00 – 6:30 pm CENTRAL/ 6:00-7:30 EASTERN and runs for 16 amazing weeks.

You will watch you coaching grow in unpredictable and critical ways.

Your confidence will deepen.

Your coaching will never be the same

Spaces are limited (it’s a small and powerful group) so visit www.bedo.org/mentor-group and lock it in today.

Philly (and region) coaches. The Amazing ATEBAR Formula Master Class is coming to you Friday

I am so happy to be presenting this powerful work and provide deep value and coach growing to the Philly coaches.  
Come and support the chapter.
Meet awesome coaches.
Learn an amazing redesign to your coaching.

The Amazing ATEBAR Formula with Ben Dooley, MCC

November 8, 2019
8:00 AM – 12:30 PM
The Inn at Villanova University
(full breakfast included)
4.0 Core Competency CCEUs Offered

  • Wouldn’t you like a formula that clearly and powerfully not only describes coaching, but illustrates exactly HOW and WHY coaching works?
  • Wouldn’t it be great to have a tool that indicates clearly where you are in the coaching process with your client, and where you really need to be?
  • Wouldn’t you want to be able to identify where you’re getting stuck in your coaching, the traps that are diluting the impact, and be able to instantly shift your coaching powerfully?
  • Wouldn’t you love to have a deep and full Awareness of your coaching so that you can create powerful Results with your clients?
  • Wouldn’t you love to have a structure that will easily unlock your untapped coaching power with unlimited powerful questions?
  • Wouldn’t you love to have a solid, versatile and powerful foundation where you can build deep and unshakable coaching confidence?
  • Wouldn’t you love to be able to grow your coaching faster, more powerfully and unleash that MasterFull coach that lies within you?

Of course you would.

Then it’s time to discover the Amazing ATEBAR formula.

This is not just a cute tool to add to your coaching that sometimes works, but a powerful foundation that fully supports your coaching skills so that your coaching can be more focused and impactful every single time. This is the basis for all powerful coaching. With it, you can easily and powerfully provide the coaching that your clients truly want and need from you.

  • Coaches who attend this workshop will …
    Discover a clearer understanding of where they are in their process of coaching with their clients.
  • Learn a simple and effective system to streamline their coaching, sidestepping simple and common traps.
  • Understand the foundational principle that fully explores and explains HOW and WHY coaching works. (In other words, an easy way to convey “What coaching is” to your clients)
  • Know immediately why the coaching isn’t working, and know exactly what to do and where to go to recover and reconnect to their coaching power.
  • Instantly enhance and deepen their current coaching skills, and be able to wield them with more focus and purpose.
  • Watch their coaching confidence grow quickly, right before their eyes.
  • Really? Do you need more? Well, in that case, they’ll also gain insight as to some of the powerful tools that master level coaches use (usually unconsciously). They’ll have the upper hand because they’ll be able to consciously practice these tools to rapidly increase their coaching impact.

PLUS: plenty of bonus stuff and fun for all.

Follow this link to register http://www…_GZj_iFqC8

Or you can go to www.icfphiladelphia.org and check out the events calendar and see the post for 2019 Professional Development Day.

It’s going to be a whole lot of fun.”
Deep and powerful learning.
Solid and reliable structures.
And… well, you’ll just have to see for yourself what it does for your coaching.

I hope to see you there.

It’s not too late to join the Fast Pass to your MasterFull Coaching. (48 CCEUs, Mentor hours and more)

The Fast Pass to MasterFull Coaching is a course like nothing out there. Designed to fully teach experienced coaches how to tap into their MasterFull Coaching. The course that coaches are calling, “Deeply inspiring”,
“freeing”,
“empowering”,
“exceptional”,
“the best bang for the buck” ,
“encompassing the whole coaching experience”
“I really wish I had done this earlier in my coaching” and,
the best investment you make in yourself since your original decision to become a life coach!”

Now it’s your turn.

Our class resumes Monday, November 4 .And if you want to be a part of this exciting course, you can still sign up and receive a recording of the first class so you can catch up.

  • You’ll discover the rich and overstuffed abundance of how your coaching will transform powerfully.
  • You’ll have a clear discovery of what defines a MasterFull Coach
  • You’ll realize how your coaching can work more powerfully and easily,
  • You’ll watch your coaching confidence grow right in the moment.
  • You’ll start to define YOU as a MasterFull Coach.

And that’s just what you missed from our first call.

Class #2 focuses on creating more foundation for you and your coaching.

  • We’ll explore how our brains and bodies function, revealing specific and inherent qualities that will empower (or block) your coaching.
  • We’ll find out more about your clients and how they function, what they truly expect from you, and what you really can give them.
  • We’ll uncover the truth and the power of ASSUMPTIONS and how they can empower your coaching.        
  • We’ll reveal the ATEBAR formula that defines all of coaching in a simple method, streamlining your coaching and increasing the impact on your clients.

And there’s so much more in the weeks to follow–all designed to develop and engage and bring out that MasterFull Coach within.

PLUS: 48 CCEUs are available, 21 weeks, 7 Mentor Coaching hours, 6 bonus recordings,
and a lifetime of unshakable coaching confidence, power and success.

Visit www.mastermycoaching.com to learn more about this exciting and course that will deeply impact and EXCELlerate your coaching and to lock in your place in the class. Remember, as soon as you join, you will get the full recording of the first class so you can catch up on what you missed, plus all the extra bonus recordings that deepen and support what we introduced on our first call.

Or if you’re really ready, you can lock it in with this link, or break it up into 6 low monthly payments.

I believe that you are already a powerful, amazing, impacting, world changing coach. You just need to learn how to connect with that coach more deeply and consistently. The rest is easy.

Your Coaching will never be the same.

How to take your coaching to the next level?

“I have been coaching for over 20 years and learn something new every time I take his course. It isn’t just the information he teaches, but the demonstration as he leads the calls. He is a beautiful example of a seasoned, masterful coach. His style if fun, entertaining, safe, and challenging at times. I can not recommend him more highly for any new or seasoned coach to take their coaching to the next level.” – Terry Sidford, ACC

What a wonderful testimonial to receive about the Fast Pass to MasterFull Coaching advanced coach training.

It’s not for beginners.

This class isn’t just tips and tricks.

It’s not about focusing on the Core Competencies.

It goes way beyond–revealing deep coaching secrets, exposing deadly coaching myths and misleadings, and a discovery of a coaching power and confidence you didn’t even know existed.

The final round for 2019 begins Monday, October 21 from 8:00 – 10:00 am Central (9-11 Eastern) and there is a spot for you.

PLUS: 48 CCEUS, Mentor Coaching hours, Bonus Recordings, handouts and so much more.

This exceptional course is designed specifically to take your coaching to the next level.

You have two options:

A) Follow either of these links to lock yourself in (space is limited) and get ready for the coaching ride of your life.

FULL PRICE$1,800.00
4 monthly payments$450
6 Monthly payments$300

B) Come to the first call, “REVEALING YOUR MASTERFULL COACH” as my guest. October 21 from 8:00 – 10:00 and discover the clear breakdown of what MasterFull Coaching is truly all about.
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/76915360915/ to register.

C) Well, you have a third option, which is to do neither and then you’ll likely stay where you are. Which is fine…. I guess… that is, unless you want more for your clients and your coaching. So in that case, i guess you better go back to options A or B.

Our last CSF call – REFRAMING

es, I’ve been remiss in posting these calls (and there have been some amazing ones, too.  You can checl them out at www.coachingskillsforum.com)

Our recent call on REFRAMING was fantastic.

In fact, you could say it completely REFRAMED how we look at the coaching skill of REFRAMING.

The first five minute will likely reveal something new for your coaching, and then there’s the rest of this call.

So check it out or yoruself.  Get a powerful insight on how REFRAMING appears in your coaching and how you can be stronger and more confiden with this tool.

(And perhaps you can join us on our next call.  It’s free, it’s fun.  And it’s full of powerful coach growing.)

Pearls of Wisdom (about Pearls of Wisdom)

I was on an online message group and someone asked about what to do with their Pearls of Wisdom that they’ve acquired over the years and how can they utilize, leverage and create value and benefit for themselves and others.

What followed was a string of responses offering suggestions of different ways to pass along their Pearls of Wisdom.
Books, blogs, newsletters and posts (like this one). Webinars, teleclasses, speaking engagements and presentations. Lessons, classes, courses and other training. Marketing content, learning and growth content, insight and inspiration content and so many more applications.

And yet, throughout all of this, I just kept thinking about the term “Pearls of Wisdom”, and getting more curious about it.

So I submit to you perhaps some pearls of wisdom about “Pearls of Wisdom”.

PEARLS:
we know where pearls come from. A small grain of sand gets in the oyster and irritates it’s tender muscle and inner lining. So it secretes a fluid to coat the sharp and uncomfortable edges–thus smoothing it out. However it’s still there, creating pressure, getting in the way, and just being a constant problem. So instinctively the oyster continues to cover it in this coating again and again. And every time it adds a layer, the pearl gets bigger and bigger. the problem doesn’t actually go away no matter how much the oyster coats and covers it with this substance. In fact, although it’s smooth, the fact that it gets bigger and bigger becomes more of a problem. And often, now it’s so big the oyster can’t get it out. (I mean, how often do you see oysters spitting out pearls?)

VALUE:
The other thing to consider is that the pearl is not valuable at all to the Oyster. (In fact, one could argue that it is a detriment. After all, hunting for pearls is one of the reasons they get plucked out of the ocean and their jaw muscle severed and their mouth is pried open, thus killing them. Not so valuable.
But it’s become valuable for us.
Why is that?
What is it about a Pearl that makes it so important in our culture?
It’s oyster spit over a grain of sand and yet it’s highly prized.
Why?
In part because it is something rare and hard to find. (You have to go through a lot of oysters to fine a pear. And a lot more oysters to find a smooth, perfect, flawless pearl–which are even rarer–or pearls of different colors and sizes.)

MYTHS:
Ancient Japanese Legend – the tears of mermaids, nymphs and angels created pearls.
Ancient Persian Legend – After a storm a rainbow came down from the sky and met with the earth, forming a pearl.
Ancient Chinese Legend – Black pearls were symbolized of wisdom. People believed the gems were formed inside the head of a dragon. Once they were fully grown, the dragon carried them between its teeth.
Biblical – Eve’s tears created white pearls, while Adam’s created black pearls.

MEANING:
These “sea gems” have been called “The Stone of Sencerity”.
Symbolizing purity, perfection , generosity, integrity, loyalty and wisdom.
They attract wealth and luck and offer protection.

USES:
Once we find a pearl, what do we do with it? Often we make it into some form of jewelry.
RING: A pearl engagement or wedding ring symbolizes faith, charity, innocence, integrity, loyalty, perfection and harmony. The same is true for a pearl necklace or bracelet or other assembly.
Rich in calcium, pearls are also ground up and used as powders in various medicines and skin care products.

THE OTHER STUFF:
And by the way, let’s not discard all those oyster shells. They have been very useful in other ways over the years from stabilizing pottery, to serving as tools or becoming spoons. the shells were piled up to create strong and stable walls as well as stacked to prevent erosion, and even filter impurities from the water.
Even the shells themselves (and the inner lining) have been used to create jewelry and other artful expression.

Let’s not forget the oyster itself. A very healthy source of food. (The pearl gets all the glory, but the oyster keeps us alive.)

And I’m sure there’s more. After all, this is just factual uses and connections with PEARL. What are the personal insights, emotions, thoughts and beliefs that you have about PEARLS?
What are PEARLS are metaphor of (aside from your Wisdom and experience)?

Have fun exploring PEARLS as a metaphor/perspective (Yeah, this could be awesome Balance work) to explore and reveal what might be next for you?

The Amazing ATEBAR Formula

A powerful design that reveals HOW and WHY coaching works (and why it’s not working… and what do to about it)

Hey Coach.

Yeah you.

Lemmie ask you something.

What’s the real difference between coaching and consulting? (Come to this call and discover.)

What is one of the most major critical problems that coaches get hooked on and stuck in their coaching? (Thin k you’re immune? Well, then come to this call and see if that’s really true.)

HOW and WHY does coaching actually work? You know, so you can rely and trust it implicitly? (This call is going to break it down for you in six easy steps.)

What kinds of questions work best with your client? And what kinds of questions does your client really need you to ask? (Oh yeah, here too. And I’ll give you a hint, it’s not so simple as “Powerful Questions”)

How can you access UNLIMITED powerful questions and never run dry in your coaching? (Yeah, you guessed it. This call will reveal all of that, too.)

How can you recover your coaching easily and powerfully when you get stuck, distracted, or things just don’t feel like they’re working? (Do I have to day it? Yup. It’s on this call.)

Is there a teleclass/webinar that will be a powerful experience for ALL coaches–regardless of how long you’ve been coaching, what type of coaching, where you got your training? (The answer is–as all of the others–a resounding YES! Wherever you are in your coaching journey, come on board and I’m confident you WILL get value.)

The Amazing ATEBAR Formula is a powerful design upon which you can build a bigger, taller, more powerful, more resilient, more adaptable, more versatile and much, much more impactful coaching.

And I’m presenting this Amazing Formula to the ICF-Michigan coaches on Thursday, July 18 at 12:00 Central/ 1:00 Eastern. And I am inviting you to come and join this Amazing 90 minute Webinar.

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/july-18-2019-webinar-with-ben-dooley-the-amazing-atebar-formula-tickets-64341219319

(SPECIAL OFFER FOR ONLY YOU: If you are not an ICF-Michigan member, then there will be a $20 fee. But if for any reason you don’t get tremendously more than your investment, I’ll give you a complementary Mentor/Coach session.

Yeah, the Amazing ATEBAR Formula for coaching is truly that Amazing.

Don’t take my word for it. Come and find out for yourself how your coaching will never be the same.

What happened on the last Fast Pass? The Being of Doing and the Doing of BEing

The traps and myths and misleadings we’ve gotten in our lives… and in our coach training.

I’ll be straight about this.  There’s a constant collapse that goes on about BEing and DOing—one that creates a lot of problems in our coaching… and in our lives.

Tell me if you’ve ever heard this or something like it (and you might have even said this yourself):  “I’m tired of DOing all the time.  I just want to BE.”  (sounds familiar, right?)

Problem:  This collapses Being and DOing and considers them to be opposite experiences. 

And that is completely wrong.  Not only that, but it is tremendously limiting and it keeps our client in a victim mode.   After all, it’s a complaint, and a complaint reveals an absence of power (or at least the perception of the absence of power). 

Consider that you are ALWAYS DOing something—even when it’s taking a bubble bath, having a long quiet walk in the woods or simply vegging out for a while.  You can’t NOT do.  The real (and often unspoken) statement is “I’m tired of DOing these specific Actions, I just want to NOT DO them, or DO some other Action.

Does that make sense?

So you are ALWAYS DOING some sort of Action, and you are ALWAYS BEING something while you are DOing that action– in other words, you have a specific attitude, essence and mode about you, there are specific thoughts, emotions and beliefs that you hold while  you are DOing that Action.

Ok, so now that we got that straight, I want you to know that this is established in the first five minutes of this specific FPMC lesson.  What follows is so much more. 

More MYTHS and TRAPS that come along with this BEing and DOing conversation, and more ways to explore, leverage and empower your client.  Just from this one lesson.  And we’re only in #3. 

Not only that, but we also use this insight to deepen the BEing and DOing of the Coach (yeah, that’s right.  You.)

Visit www.mastermycoaching.com and see how “The Fast Pass to MasterFull Coaching” tackles deeply BOTH the BEing and the DOing of your coaching in incredible and profound ways.

Plus 48 CCEUs and Mentor coaching hours, too.

It’s time to BE the coach you are truly here to BE
So you can DO the coaching you’re truly here to DO
It’s time to jump into the Fast Pass
Your Coaching will never be the same!