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April 24, 2014

The Coaching Skills Forum – “TAKING CHARGE”

Oh man what another awesome and amazing call.  I would say just about every coach on today’s CSF call got their Taking Charge muscle… well, charged.

In fact there was one coach who told me she met with a prospective client right after the call and before she knew it, she had challenged the client with, “So what would it be like to “Take Charge” of your life.”

Well, I’m sure you can imagine that prospective client wasn’t prospecting anymore.  She was hired right on the spot.

So listen to this call yourself and see how your coaching shifts and grows.

And then join us on the next exciting CSF call.  www.coachingskillsforum.com

http://bedo.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/04/taking_charge-042314.mp3
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April 22, 2014

The Fast Pass to MasterFull Coaching website is new and improved

I have to tell you, I’m pretty excited about how i’ve cleaned up this page.  I have gotten comments in the past about how there’s so much information it can get a little overwhelming, but I’ll also hear from coaches how they love all the information that’s there and that they really feel like they can make an empowered choice.

So please check it out and let me know what you think. I’m still in the mode of making tweaks and adjustments.

www.mastermycoaching.com

(Oh yes, and there are new dates set for the next round, new content added to the course, and even more CCEUs available.  PLUS even more exciting surprises in the weeks to come.  So stay tuned.)

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April 1, 2014

Coaching is NOT your Passion

Coaching is not your Passion
I know, that’s probably a radical statement, but before you move off this page, hear me out.
You see, most of us have the misunderstanding that we’re passionate about something that we do. But it’s not that at all.
Here, let’s look at Mother Theresa as an example. We could all certainly agree that this was one passionate woman in what she did. But let’s look at it a little closer.
I don’t believe for one minute that if you asked her what her passion was, she would say, “My passion is sleeping on the hard dirt, surrounded by disease and poverty, and watching in pain and dying and being only able to help a small percentage of the greater population of suffering.”
And yet, that was her job, day to day—every day. That’s what she did.
And she did it WITH passion. That activity didn’t define her passion. It was her passion that fueled her, fed her, supported her in those actions. It was her passion that encouraged her to press on and persevere in those times of sorrow and hopelessness. It was her passion that opened her not to what she couldn’t do, but what she could do, what was possible. It was her passion that inspired others to follow her path.
That’s the power of passion.
So what was her passion?
We could guess her passion was about helping people in need. It was about spreading love and kindness to the places most devoid of it. It was about giving every ounce of her being to live true to God’s word of “love thy neighbor”. And I’m sure there was more involved.

So I go back to my earlier statement. Coaching is NOT your passion. Coaching is how your passion gets to be expressed. You get to fulfill your passion through the action of Coaching.

So now I ask you. What is your REAL passion?

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April 1, 2014

Another testimonial for the Fast Pass to MasterFull Coaching

I am so proud to get comments like these from the coaches in my class. I am proud of this course. And I am proud of the coaches who have taken what I’ve given and put it into their coaching so beautifully.
“I have taken the ‘Fast Pass to Master Coaching’ from Ben more than once.

Each time I have learned and deepened my understanding of coaching, and I have been impressed by how masterfully Ben builds coaching competence for each group of participants in ways that are generous, generative and that foster rich understanding.

Ben communicates powerful ideas about coaching and engages each participant in ways that create deep understanding for the particular individual, and for the group. There is no carbon copy learning here! The curriculum that Ben has developed, and the way that he teaches it, is an incredible example of building knowledge and enhancing creativity in conversation, and meaningful dialogue that is founded on solid twenty first century learning principles for each coach participant.

Ben is a gifted teacher and coach who offers consummate expertise and value in each of his courses!”
– Michelle Bastock
PhD – Curriculum, Teaching and Learning

Thank you, Michelle.

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March 31, 2014

trust in the dip

Look, it’s pretty simple.
We get in the dip. It happens. We feel stuck. We lose our momentum. We bottom out. We feel empty, hopeless, alone, scared, uninspired, dry, and that all of this will never work.
I know it can be tempting to try to figure a way out. But before you do…

Take a moment to at your past. How many times has something like this happened before?
Several? Many? A lot?
Now, I know it can be tempting to look at what those situations had in common. What were some of the traps so you can avoid them. But before you do that…

Out of those times that something like this has happened before, how many times have you come out of it?
A few? Some? How about all of them?
Yeah, I thought so. ALL OF THEM.
Every single time you have been stuck in the past, felt down, depressed, empty, unmotivated, dry, etc. you have at some point gotten out of it. It’s happened EVERY SINGLE TIME.
Which means that you have a 100% success rate of getting out of the dip.
Which means that the dip your currently in (or will be in at some point) you have a proven 100% success rate of getting out of it.
Of course the methods and strategies you use may be different as the situations require. You may have gotten yourself out, or someone came along to help you, or something just appeared at the right time. Either way, it happened. You have proof.
You can rely on it.
Just trust that when you get in the dip, you’ll ALWAYS come back out.
Guaranteed.

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March 26, 2014

CSF – Share’s what is there.

What another amazing and incredible call. If you are ready for a deeper look into your coaching and the skills of “Sharing what is there”, look no further. This call is packed with coaches sharing what is there for them about this skill. http://bedo.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/03/shares-what-there-032614.mp3
Enjoy.

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March 16, 2014

Our last CSF call – SELF-MANAGMENT

I can’t imagine what my coaching would be like without these calls and the amazing coaches who participate. Thank you all.
(TO ANY COACH READING THIS: I Invite you to listen to this call, that is, if you want to stretch and grow your self-management in exciting ways
http://bedo.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/03/self-managment-031114.mp3

Your coaching will never be the same.

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March 14, 2014

What coaches are saying about the Fast Pass to MasterFull Coaching

“I did all my initial coach training with an training organization that was quite structured in its approach. In my head I thought of it as all ‘straight lines’. It was good, and I learned a lot, but I always felt like there was something missing. At times it even felt superficial and that niggled at me. I tried to add my own approach – my ‘free flow’ I called it – but I couldn’t quite work out how to piece it all together. I’m not saying I didn’t have great client interactions – I did – and I got great client feedback, but I knew it wasn’t quite right.

“Then I discovered Ben’s programs. He can do structure and straight lines, but he’s mastered the depth, curves, squiggles, and real true humanity – which is exactly what I was looking for. I use Ben’s simple techniques and approaches all the time now. I can honestly say I am getting amazing feedback from clients and my confidence has grown significantly. I now know things like how to recover when the coaching goes awry and how to reconnect so I’m in the moment again. I am learning how to twist, play and hit the home runs. I’ve also sped up – a lot – I’m doing 15 minute calls and having some clients finish the call saying things like ‘wow, are you always this effective? or ‘wow, I never imagined I’d figure this thorny problem out so quickly and feel so different.”   -Joanne Ostler, PCC

I’m so proud and honored to receive comments like this from coaches.  It’s part of my quest to help coaches of all types discover their deep and full coaching power, confidence and success.

Now it’s your turn.

The next series begins March 26 at 11:00 am CST/ 12:00 EST and there’s a spot still open for you.
In fact, I believe in this work so much, and I want you to begin discovering your MasterFull coach right away, I want you to jump in to the first super packed 1:45 call as my guest.
*(If you’d choose to continue with the Full Fast Pass course, I’ll send you a special discounted link you can use so you can receive all 32 CCEUs, 15 weeks, 7 mentor coaching hours and become 1 powerful and confidence coach.)

Just send me an email to ben@bedo.org and I’ll pass along the FPMC coaching hotline so you can join in the fun.

And for more information, visit www.mastermycoaching.com.

What are you waiting for?
It’s time for you to jump into the Fast Pass
Your coaching will never be the same.

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March 10, 2014

PLAYGROUND PONDERABLES 5 – The See-Saw

As coaches we know there are good times and there are bad times.  As we get older and our challenges get harder and complex, this can be one of the most powerful things to remember, and yet, when we’re stuck in those crisis moments, it can be hard to remember.  We feel like we’re not moving, nor will we ever move.  Things will never change, and we’ll always see things the same way.

And when you’re stuck on the bottom, you can’t really get yourself out.  You need help–someone to balance you out and lift you up.  And no matter how bad it gets, we must always keep in mind the old adage, “What goes up, must come down.”  but that also works the other direction, “What goes down, must come back up.”  That alone has been a source of hope and inspiration for many.

It’s a wonderful phrase and lesson to learn, and yet, typically when we’re in the middle of our crisis or stuckness, it can be hard to remember.  from where we’re sitting, we’re down and we’ll always stay down.

It’s amazing that we forget so easily the lessons that we learned from the playground while playing on one of life’s greatest teachers–the see-saw.

Yes, you heard me right.  Think about it.   The See-Saw

First off, don’t get me started on the name.  I don’t know where it really came from.  Some think that it’s a derivation of the up and down motion resembling the back and forth of a saw (and there’s this whole french pronunciation thing and I don’t know.)  Suffice to see, however it originated, the name is sooooooooooooo coaching, considering we’re all about what you see (literally as well as metaphorically), what you will see, and what you saw.

But aside from that, let’s look at how this works.

First off, have you ever tried to see-saw alone?  Doesn’t work.  You just sit there.  Stuck on the ground.  Sure, you can lift yourself up, but as soon as you lift your legs that are supporting you, you’ll come crashing down on your keister.

Someone needs to help you, to partner with you, to serve as your balance.  Now it can’t be someone much larger or too small, they have to be about the same size, and more importantly, weight.  If you have a similar weight then when they get on, you’ll rise up nice and steady and you’ll balance each other out… legs dangling as though you are floating on air.  If you’ve ever had someone larger jump on, you’ll know the experience.  It can be quite exciting to suddenly be catapulted upwards, but a little scary as you leave the seat and continue flying out of control.  And when you come down, it’s not a pleasant feeling.

Nor is when that other person suddenly gets off and they no longer balance you out and your own weight brings you crashing down to bruised tailbones.

Now one game we used to play was when two people would balance off on the see-saw and then another would jump on the middle.  If they stood right in the center (the fulcrum) they would be able to add to the balance.  Then another kid would climb on and the one in the center would adjust his weight a bit to accomodate, and then another would perch upon and another.  It was a fun game to see how many kids we could pile on this one ride, all balanced out and even.  And then slowly start moving up and down, up and down.  With all that extra weight it would be harder to move quickly, and things could get out of hand easily.  There was quite a degree of trust as we would all rely on each other.  If one kid jumped off the right side, the left side would jolt downward, thus usually losing a kid on the back end.  This in turn would shift the weight back over to the right side and some would tumble there, and before you knew it, everyone had fallen off (and hopefully not gotten hurt in the process–which explains why the adults wouldn’t let us do it).

I’m sure there’s more metaphors and lessons learned from this and I’d love to hear what you come up with.

So please share your thoughts and ideas.

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March 6, 2014

PLAYGROUND PONDERABLES 4 – Entering the Sandbox

At my playground the sandbox was probably the coolest activity of all.  It was the great equalizer for boys and girls alike–cool or awkward, creative or not, social or solo.  This was the place where anything was possible.

You got to play in the ground in something that by all means would make you dirty, but you didn’t get dirty.

You could create buildings, bridges, roadways, tunnels, caves, “bottomless” pits, and just about anything that your imagination could think of.

You could work with just the sand, or you could bring in your own shovels, molds and other implements of building.  And you could always bring your toys (cars, action figures, and even an occasional “buried treasure”)

You could work with friends, but it was also where you met and interacted with other kids you didn’t know.  And you were all tied to that same activity.  You were all working together for the same goal.

You could make up games

You didn’t even have to DO anything specific.  Many a child enjoyed the sensation of running their fingers through the grains, watching them pour through the cracks and cascade to the ground like some sort of solid water.  Other kids would enjoy the feeling of digging their hands into the flexible earth, sifting their fingers (and occasional toes) deeper and deeper.

And at the end of the day, when it’s time to go home, you always (somehow, no matter how hard you try) manage to take a little bit of the sandbox home with you.

But the greatest thing about the sandbox was that there was no “wrong” way.

Wouldn’t it be great if we all had sandboxes now?

We could create anything that our imagination could dream.  We could connect and collaborate with old colleagues and new friends.  We would all be equal, regardless of where we came from and who we were.  We could all focus on a single purpose, and make up a new purpose in a moment’s notice.  We could experience great satisfaction on our own or in a group.  We could simply while the time feeling the texture and simple BEing in the experience.  And when it was time to leave, there was always a few grains that stayed with you.  (You know?  Come to think of it, maybe we DO have a sandbox.  Hm.   I wonder.  Anyone have any ideas?)

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