Friday Fired Up-Day: “I Don’t Know”

I love when clients say, “I don’t know”.  I think it’s exciting and amazing and wonderful.   After all, this is what MasterFull coaching is all about.  How to handle “I don’t know.”  Anybody who is a Master at something realizes just how much they don’t know.

Any black belt master in the martial arts is the first one to say, “I don’t know.”  But that doesn’t stop them.  It compels them, pulls them forward.  Any master musician or tradesman admits their limitations, but that doesn’t get in their way.  Instead it engages them in powerful and exciting ways.  For a master, “I don’t know” is an invitation to unlimited possibilities and potential.

And yet, it seems that most coaches out there just don’t know how to handle the dreaded phrase of “I don’t know.”

Hm.  Isn’t that ironic?  You’d think it would be exciting.  I mean, if you think about it, if your client already came to you knowing everything, then what are they calling you for?  They’re calling you because THEY DON’T KNOW.  Right?

But for many coaches, “I don’t know” is scary.  It’s a problem.  Something is wrong.  The coaching stops.  We’re stuck.  “Oh crap.  I just asked an awesome question and the client shot it down with, “I don’t know.” What do I do know?”  We are hijacked by the client’s unwillingness or inability to go deeper and give us a brilliant answer that tells us we’re awesome coaches.

What do we do?  How do we respond and handle that?

First off, before anyone replies with “Why don’t you just ask them “Well, if you did know, then what would your answer be?”” let me go on record with saying I HATE… absolutely HATE that response. (In fact, I think that every school, teacher, mentor, coach that teaches that phase should be be severely reprimanded for the damage they’re doing to the coaches they are growing.  So if you do that… please stop doing it.)

Yes, I know, sometimes that opens the door for your clients, but not nearly as often as you think.  If you ever coach me, DON’T ASK THIS QUESTION.

Why?  Because my response would be something more like, “Didn’t you just hear me, coach?  I just said, pretty clearly, that I don’t know.  Which means exactly that: I DON’T KNOW.”  What a way to indicate you don’t respect the client’s experience.

Let’s realize that when a client says this, it’s likely that they’re struggling.  There is some impending doom coming towards them if they don’t solve their problem, and as a result they are literally unable to access their creativity and intelligence… you know, what they DO know?  Besides, some people can’t think out of the box that easily, access and identify their emotions, be creative.  And asking them “What if you did know?” is like trying to pretend that there’s no problem.  It’s very dismissive.

Yes, I know it’s an attempt to get them to think out of the box.  And I agree with that approach.  But there are much more effective ways to do that.

  • Take away their threat.  “If money weren’t a problem, what would you do?”  “Imagine for a moment that this issue was solved, magically, then what would be different for you?”  And take if from there.
  • Step away from the problem for a moment and take the client to someplace else that they do know.
  • take a look at “I Don’t Know”.  In other words, ask your client what it’s like not knowing.  Or how does “I don’t know impact them”.
  • You could take the risk and challenge them with “Is that true?” but be careful that doesn’t shut your client down as the “What if” phrase.
  • Ask something like, “What do you wish the answer was?” which is different.
  • Go a different direction completely.  Let it go and ask a different question.  Perhaps you’ll come back to it later and the client will have a better insight.
  • And there are tons more approaches.

Besides, when we’re taught to ask this question, we fall into the assumption that that is the magic question.  “All you have to do is ask your client that question and you’re doing amazing coaching.”
Yes.  True.  Except when it doesn’t work.

In other words, (and here’s another reason why it gets my grease-can) “Well, what if you did know” is a set response to the coach’s own experience of “I don’t know.”

Crap.  I don’t know what to do with this client.  I don’t know how to respond to what they just said.  I don’t know how to get out of this mess and i certainly don’t know how to coach “I don’t know”.  So why are we teaching our coaches how to handle “I don’t know” so poorly?

To tell you the truth… I Don’t Know.

What I DO know is that “I DON’T KNOW” is an exciting and amazing place to be.  It’s the doorway to unlimited possibility and potential.

Imagine instead of those dreaded three words, your client is actually saying, “Gee coach, I don’t have enough awareness, information or connection to my thoughts or emotions a this moment to answer your question clearly.”

What would your response be then?  think about it.  your client just said they don’t have enough awareness, information or connection to their thoughts and emotions.  What a coincidence!  That just happens to be your specialty (or, at least it should be).

Yes, I’m fired up about this.  It’s coming out now because it was a fantastic topic on today’s Fast Pass to MasterFull coaching class, where, on top of the lesson for today that explored ALIVENESS, we also focused on how to powerfully handle “I Don’t Know” in amazing ways.  How to appreciate and embrace “I don’t know”.  How to see “I don’t know” as the doorway and access to your client’s absolute brilliance and wisdom.

I could share more with you, but

A) This is a simple blog post, not a full out lesson.  that would take way too much time to write and I’m not sure if you would actually stick around and read it all anyway.

B) There’s so much more information that’s part of the Fast Pass class.  So I’ll invite you to join the next round beginning May 26 and you’ll not just learn how to handle “I don’t know” powerfully, but you’ll be able to do it, too.

C) There is no one way.  Every coach has their own way of handling this issue, and every clients works differently as well.  What is that magic and powerful way for you?

I don’t know.

But I’d sure be curious to find out.

 

So how do YOU handle “I don’t know”.  Please share.

(And before you quickly reply with “I don’t know”, stop for a moment.  Connect with that powerful, awesome and amazing coach that I know you are, and see what answer you come up with.

I’d love to know what you come up with and share.)

On the 15th week of Classes my Fast Pass gave to me…

On the 15th week of Classes my Fast Pass gave to me…

15 power packed classes
14 elements of coaching
13 easy and empowering exercises
12 defining Master Coach qualities
11 coaching turned up to 11
10 Super Sprint calls
9 conflicting agendas
8 ways to connect
7 skills strengthened
6 stages of change
5 empowering words
4 coaching completions
3 fantastic focuses
2 stages to learning
And 1 Confident and MasterFull coach

There is nothing else like this course out there. And I want you to be a part of it. I want you to discover the coach you never knew you were. I want you to truly be the catalyst for widespread and deep impact, and for creating the change in the world that you desire and deserve.

The one thing I do know is that you are here for a reason. It’s time you stepped into your coaching MasterFully.

The “Fast Pass to MasterFull Coaching” teleclass is a unique and powerful course that continues your coaching growth like no other work out there. 32 CCEUs, 7 Mentor Coaching hours, 1100 super packed minutes, and powerful tools, techniques and proven principles designed to unleash the powerful coach that you truly are. Valued at over $2500, this is the advanced coaching work that coaches are calling “Deeply inspiring”, “freeing”, “empowering”, “exceptional”, “the best bang for the buck”, “encompassing the whole coaching experience.” and the best investment you make in yourself since your original decision to become a life coach!”

And now it’s your turn. Visit www.mastermycoaching.com to sign up for this course beginning early December or the following Spring class and you’ll begin to notice a different in your coaching right away with your welcome packet. As the weeks progress you’ll watch your confidence grow as you move faster towards truly becoming a Confident and MasterFull coach.

On the 14th week of Classes my Fast Pass gave to me…

On the 14th week of Classes my Fast Pass gave to me…

14 elements of coaching
13 easy and empowering exercises
12 defining Master Coach qualities
11 coaching turned up to 11
10 Super Sprint calls
9 conflicting agendas
8 ways to connect
7 skills strengthened
6 stages of change
5 empowering words
4 coaching completions
3 fantastic focuses
2 stages to learning
And 1 Confident and MasterFull coach

There are hundreds of coaching skills, but only 14 prime and core elements. These Elements create a powerful foundation for your coaching. Once you know them, you can strengthen and build any weak area of your coaching instantly. You’ll also have a powerful approach so that you’ll never have to be lost in your coaching ever again. You’ll always have a powerful place to come from.  This work alone will transform your coaching in incredible ways.  You will look at your coaching skills in a whole new way.

These are some of the most super packed classes out there. In fact, they’re so full that we record each call so you can go back and catch up on what you might have missed. That’s over 1080 minutes devoted to revealing and connecting to your MasterFull coach, strengthening your skills easily and automatically, enhancing your marketing and client attraction, and deepening your confidence, you’ll become adept at the four MasterFull Aspects of Powerful Recovery, creating Deep Awareness, Identifying and Honoring Commitments, and Engaging and impacting Energy.

There is nothing else like this course out there. And I want you to be a part of it. I want you to discover the coach you never knew you were. I want you to truly be the catalyst for widespread and deep impact, and for creating the change in the world that you desire and deserve.

The one thing I do know is that you are here for a reason. It’s time you stepped into your coaching MasterFully.

The “Fast Pass to MasterFull Coaching” teleclass is a unique and powerful course that continues your coaching growth like no other work out there. 32 CCEUs, 7 Mentor Coaching hours, 1100 super packed minutes, and powerful tools, techniques and proven principles designed to unleash the powerful coach that you truly are. Valued at over $2500, this is the advanced coaching work that coaches are calling “Deeply inspiring”, “freeing”, “empowering”, “exceptional”, “the best bang for the buck”, “encompassing the whole coaching experience.” and the best investment you make in yourself since your original decision to become a life coach!”

And now it’s your turn. Visit www.mastermycoaching.com to sign up for this course beginning early December or the following Spring class and you’ll begin to notice a different in your coaching right away with your welcome packet. As the weeks progress you’ll watch your confidence grow as you move faster towards truly becoming a Confident and MasterFull coach.

On the 13th week of Classes my Fast Pass gave to me…

On the 13th week of Classes my Fast Pass gave to me…

13 easy and empowering exercises
12 defining Master Coach qualities
11 coaching turned up to 11
10 Super Sprint calls
9 conflicting agendas
8 ways to connect
7 skills strengthened
6 stages of change
5 empowering words
4 coaching completions
3 fantastic focuses
2 stages to learning
And 1 Confident and MasterFull coach

Yes, I know there are typically 12 days of Christmas, which this campaign is modeled after, but truth be told, the FPMC is now expanded to 15 calls, and there’s just so much this course offers that I thought it would be best to extend a few more “gifts”.  Including this one.

These are some of the most super packed classes out there. In fact, they’re so full that we record each call so you can go back and catch up on what you might have missed. That’s over 1080 minutes devoted to revealing and connecting to your MasterFull coach, strengthening your skills easily and automatically, enhancing your marketing and client attraction, and deepening your confidence, you’ll become adept at the four MasterFull Aspects of Powerful Recovery, creating Deep Awareness, Identifying and Honoring Commitments, and Engaging and impacting Energy.

There is nothing else like this course out there. And I want you to be a part of it. I want you to discover the coach you never knew you were. I want you to truly be the catalyst for widespread and deep impact, and for creating the change in the world that you desire and deserve.

The one thing I do know is that you are here for a reason. It’s time you stepped into your coaching MasterFully.

The “Fast Pass to MasterFull Coaching” teleclass is a unique and powerful course that continues your coaching growth like no other work out there. 32 CCEUs, 7 Mentor Coaching hours, 1100 super packed minutes, and powerful tools, techniques and proven principles designed to unleash the powerful coach that you truly are. Valued at over $2500, this is the advanced coaching work that coaches are calling “Deeply inspiring”, “freeing”, “empowering”, “exceptional”, “the best bang for the buck”, “encompassing the whole coaching experience.” and the best investment you make in yourself since your original decision to become a life coach!”

And now it’s your turn. Visit www.mastermycoaching.com to sign up for this course beginning early December or the following Spring class and you’ll begin to notice a different in your coaching right away with your welcome packet. As the weeks progress you’ll watch your confidence grow as you move faster towards truly becoming a Confident and MasterFull coach.

On the 12th week of Classes my Fast Pass gave to me…

On the 12th week of Classes my Fast Pass gave to me…

12 defining Master Coach qualities
11 coaching turned up to 11
10 Super Sprint calls
9 conflicting agendas
8 ways to connect
7 skills strengthened
6 stages of change
5 empowering words
4 coaching completions
3 fantastic focuses
2 stages to learning
And 1 Confident and MasterFull coach

These are some of the most super packed classes out there. In fact, they’re so full that we record each call so you can go back and catch up on what you might have missed. That’s over 1080 minutes devoted to revealing and connecting to your MasterFull coach, strengthening your skills easily and automatically, enhancing your marketing and client attraction, and deepening your confidence, you’ll become adept at the four MasterFull Aspects of Powerful Recovery, creating Deep Awareness, Identifying and Honoring Commitments, and Engaging and impacting Energy.

There is nothing else like this course out there. And I want you to be a part of it. I want you to discover the coach you never knew you were. I want you to truly be the catalyst for widespread and deep impact, and for creating the change in the world that you desire and deserve.

The one thing I do know is that you are here for a reason. It’s time you stepped into your coaching MasterFully.

The “Fast Pass to MasterFull Coaching” teleclass is a unique and powerful course that continues your coaching growth like no other work out there. 32 CCEUs, 7 Mentor Coaching hours, 1100 super packed minutes, and powerful tools, techniques and proven principles designed to unleash the powerful coach that you truly are. Valued at over $2500, this is the advanced coaching work that coaches are calling “Deeply inspiring”, “freeing”, “empowering”, “exceptional”, “the best bang for the buck”, “encompassing the whole coaching experience.” and the best investment you make in yourself since your original decision to become a life coach!”

And now it’s your turn. Visit www.mastermycoaching.com to sign up for this course beginning early December or the following Spring class and you’ll begin to notice a different in your coaching right away with your welcome packet. As the weeks progress you’ll watch your confidence grow as you move faster towards truly becoming a Confident and MasterFull coach.

On the 11th week of Classes my Fast Pass gave to me…

On the 11th week of Classes my Fast Pass gave to me…

11 coaching turned up to 11
10 Super Sprint calls
9 conflicting agendas
8 ways to connect
7 skills strengthened
6 stages of change
5 empowering words
4 coaching completions
3 fantastic focuses
2 stages to learning
And 1 Confident and MasterFull coach

There are hundreds of coaching skills, but only 11 prime and core elements. (And no, it’s not the 11 Core Competencies). These Elements create a powerful foundation for your coaching. Once you know them, you can strengthen and build any weak area of your coaching instantly. You’ll also have a powerful approach so that you’ll never have to be lost in your coaching ever again. You’ll always have a powerful place to come from.  This work alone will transform your coaching in incredible ways.  You will look at your coaching skills in a whole new way.

The “Fast Pass to MasterFull Coaching” teleclass is a unique and powerful course that expands and deepens your coaching growth like no other work out there. 32 CCEUs, 7 Mentor Coaching hours, 1500 super packed minutes, and powerful tools, techniques and proven principles designed to unleash the powerful coach that you truly are.  Valued at over $3500, this is the advanced coaching work that coaches are calling “a wonderful wholistic approach”, “a sanctuary of respectful learning” and “Fantastic Value!”

And now it’s your turn. Visit www.mastermycoaching.com to sign up for this course beginning January 22 or the following March and you’ll begin to notice a different in your coaching right away.  Valued at over $3500, your investment is a fraction of that cost, and It’s truly the best investment you make in yourself since your original decision to become a life coach!”

Your Coaching Will Never Be The Same

On the 10th week of Classes my Fast Pass gave to me…

On the 10th week of Classes my Fast Pass gave to me…

10 Super Sprint calls
9 conflicting agendas
8 way to create connection
7 skills strengthened
6 steps of transformation
5 empowering words
4 powerful coaching completions
3 fantastic coaching focuses
2 stages of deep learning
And 1 Confident and MasterFull coach

It’s more than laser coaching, more than a sample session format. Inspired by my time on the swim team, track and field, and my brother the fireman (as well as from football and our military) these Super Sprint calls are just that—super. It’s a simple exercise that you can do any time to sharpen and hone your coaching. How about that? You actually don’t have to Do anything except coach within this framework and the structure of the exercise does the hard work for you. All you have to do is coach the way you already, wonderfully, beautifully and powerfully do. And after as little as 10 of these, you’ll become an expert at the sample session. You’ll watch your coaching naturally and automatically expand and grow, right before your very eyes. Your confidence will increase. Your every day coaching will be more packed and sharp. You’ll discover that you can accomplish more impact in less time.

The “Fast Pass to MasterFull Coaching” teleclass is a unique and powerful course that continues your coaching growth like no other work out there. Offering 32 CCEUs and 7 Mentor Coaching hours, this is the advanced coaching work that coaches are calling “Transformative”,  “Awesome”, and “Brilliant”

And now it’s your turn. Visit www.mastermycoaching.com to sign up for this course beginning January 22 or the following March class and you’ll begin to notice a different in your coaching right away with your welcome packet. As the weeks progress you’ll watch your confidence grow as you move faster towards truly becoming a Confident and MasterFull coach.

Valued at over $3500, you’ll pay only a fraction of the cost.  It’s truly the best investment you make in yourself since your original decision to become a life coach!”

Your Coaching Will Never Be the Same

On the 9th week of Classes my Fast Pass gave to me…

On the 9th week of Classes my Fast Pass gave to me…

9 conflicting agendas
8 way to create connection
7 skills strengthened
6 steps of transformation
5 empowering words
4 powerful coaching completions
3 fantastic coaching focuses
2 stages of deep learning
And 1 Confident and MasterFull coach

Actually, in truth there are probably more than just 9. But I needed a good NINE to fit the series, and there are easily at least nine agendas on every single coaching call, whether you recognize them or not.  What’s important is not to limit or eliminate any of them, or pretend some don’t exist (you’ve heard the phrase, “What you resist persists”, well, the same is true for Agendas.)
You’ll learn how to recognize all the Agendas that are involved in the coaching, and the more skilled you are at identifying these agendas, comes the power of choice. And with that comes the power of change—for both you and your client.
The Agenda Discovery Process alone will open your coaching in exciting ways and give you so much more material to work with your client. Instantly you’ll see your clients in a different and more empowering light.

The “Fast Pass to MasterFull Coaching” teleclass is a unique and powerful course that continues your coaching growth like no other work out there. 32 CCEUs, 7 Mentor Coaching hours, 1500 super packed minutes, and powerful tools, techniques and proven principles designed to unleash the powerful coach that you truly are. Valued at over $3500, this is the advanced coaching work that coaches are calling, the best investment you make in yourself since your original decision to become a life coach!”  And your investment is a fraction of that value.

And now it’s your turn. Visit www.mastermycoaching.com to sign up for this course beginning January 22 or the following March class and you’ll begin to notice a different in your coaching right away with your welcome packet. As the weeks progress you’ll watch your confidence grow as you move faster towards truly becoming a Confident and MasterFull coach.

On the 8th week of Classes my Fast Pass gave to me…

On the 8th week of Classes my Fast Pass gave to me…

8 way to create connection
7 skills strengthened
6 steps of transformation
5 empowering words
4 powerful coaching completions
3 fantastic coaching focuses
2 stages of deep learning
And 1 Confident and MasterFull coach

You’d be amazed just how often you think you are connected but really aren’t. Or maybe you’ve realized there’s some disconnection, but you’re not sure how to get back to your client. As a result, your coaching isn’t nearly effective, and your clients will begin to notice. It’s all about connection, and we’ll explore this throughout the entire course, but specifically on three of our calls—after all, when there’s no connection, there ain’t no coaching going on. I don’t care how skilled you are, how many credentials, how many years and how fancy your website is.

Expose three deadly and dangerous Coaching Myths that kill your coaching every single time, and you may not even know it.

Reveal the single reason why your coaching calls fail.  (It’s not what you think.)

Discover the easy and powerful three step process to create powerful connection with your clients. And learn 8 simple, easy to use, and yet extremely powerful techniques to create instant and deep and beautiful connection with your clients.

The “Fast Pass to MasterFull Coaching” teleclass is a unique and powerful course that continues your coaching growth like no other work out there. 32 CCEUs, 7 Mentor Coaching hours, 1500 super packed minutes, and powerful tools, techniques and proven principles designed to unleash the powerful coach that you truly are. Valued at over $3500, this is the advanced coaching work that coaches are calling “exceptional”, “the best bang for the buck” and “encompassing the whole coaching experience”.

And now it’s your turn. Visit www.mastermycoaching.com to sign up for this course beginning January 22 or the following March class and you’ll begin to notice a different in your coaching right away with your welcome packet. As the weeks progress you’ll watch your confidence grow as you move faster towards truly becoming a Confident and MasterFull coach.

On the 7th week of Classes my Fast Pass gave to me…

On the 7th week of Classes my Fast Pass gave to me…

7 skills strengthened
6 steps of transformation
5 empowering words
4 powerful coaching completions
3 fantastic coaching focuses
2 stages of deep learning
And 1 Confident and MasterFull coach

Inspired by swimmers, runners, my brother the fireman, football players and our military, you will experience in as little as 15 minutes how to instantly and easily increase and expand over 7 coaching skills. It’s a simple exercise that you can do any time to sharpen and hone your coaching—naturally and automatically. How about that? You actually don’t have to Do anything except coach within this framework and the structure of the exercise does the hard work for you. All you have to do is coach the way you already, wonderfully, beautifully and powerfully do.

In fact, that’s a working principle for the “Fast Pass to MasterFull Coaching” teleclass. The more you practice these simple and easy exercises outside of your coaching, the deeper and stronger your coaching naturally becomes.

It’s up to you. You could work really hard, spend hours and thousands of dollars trying to DO better coaching, or your could choose to make it really easy and fun by visiting www.mastermycoaching.com and sign up for the course that coaches are calling, “empowering”, “AMAZING”, and the class that, “goes beyond anything I have ever experienced in my Coaching Training.”

And now it’s your turn. Amaze your clients, impress your friends (and you might just be a little astounded yourself) as you behold over 7 major coaching skills increase instantly and expand automatically—right before your very eyes. In as little as 15 minutes, you’ll discover how your coaching will never be the same.